I barely know what I'm doing and the women I've been with have all had the big O
I need to be alone in a love den for a few weeks with a woman I really like That will be the real test

I'm a novice, what are you gonna do?

I think there's too much pressure on men to "perform".

And you think there is no pressure on women? Do you have any idea what goes through a woman's head when she's going ona date, or going home with a guy?

Here's a few examples... what if I say the wrong thing? What if my teeth accidentally scrap him? What if he doesn't like what he sees once the clothes are off, should I insist the lights be off or does he like it with the lights on? My blowjob skills are below par, I'm not pretty enough, I'm not sexual enough, after this long what if it doesn't fit in because it's tightened back up (or, what if he can't feel anything because I've been with so many men)... try putting yourself in the woman's position, there is just as much pressure on a woman not to fuck up in the bedroom as there is on a man, if not more because we tend to have to worry about the outcomes too (does he have issues using a condom, do I ask him to pull out, birth control or no birth control).

I never knew a woman could ever feel like that. From my point of view, speaking only of myself, the pressure is vast, like carrying an Everest of female expectations on your back.
Try going through life hearing "size" jibes all over the place I blame porn and the media for that though mostly, skewing normality and feeding women bullshit expectations.
Or they've had one "life changing" lover, and the rest never "measure up"...it's all bullshit

Women feel like that... among other things like "do I let him go down on me, or should I shower first just in case" or if she has scars on her body, she's belittling herself over those scars and what he might think about those scars. If she has a single blemish it will look 10 times worse than it actually is to her.

The size thing is media/porn. It honestly doesn't make a difference if he knows what he's doing with it (like first knowing where it goes is a good start). Those jokes are mainly done in a joking manner, or to give the man a hard time and urge him to prove her wrong.

And I will admit, a life changing lover and the rest not measuring up is a true one. But it's normally last on her mind when leading up to the actual act itself, normally she's going over her check list of what she could do wrong or what is wrong with her. Especially when the guy is a new guy and not someone she's known for years.

I have scars

Well thanks for your honesty Stars, The Everest on my back is now more of a boulder
It's a bit of a revelation, because I have been going through life feeling that it's all on me, all of it, and if I don't "perform" to a certain standard, I'm next to useless and discarded for the next guy That's a bit of a disservice to women though. Plus I have one or two "issues" that affects my perception of myself,

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That woman's gotta be on something, I don't know WTF she's on but she's gotta be on something.

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The woman makes it very clear what she rides is on...

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not that.
She's so... energetic about what shes saying.